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Saturday, January 20, 2007

Hillary for President??

My 13 year old daughter and I were ‘debating’ yet again about the war in Iraq while watching the Presidents ‘plan’ on television. I have no idea how I ended up with a right wing future republican in my genetic pool, but there she is in all her youthful innocence consistently defending the President and his horrific actions.
She tells me that ‘he is doing the best he can, everyone makes mistakes’.
“Well while that may be true it doesn’t mean he is right” is what I retaliate with.
She then goes on to tell me that ‘we have to send more troops to Iraq; we have to help other countries, thats our job. If we don’t help them they will come here and hurt us’…I think for a moment as I am wondering where this child came from….were the pod people at my door in the middle of the night and I didn’t hear them?...was she switched at birth? And where the heck is she getting her information?
I try over and over to remind of her all of the ‘facts’ in this case, like that we had no reason at the time to invade Iraq, we still haven’t found Bin Laden and he was the reason we went over there in the first place, that Sadam was a very bad man but he didn’t blow up the towers in New York., there were NO weapons of mass destruction…ect..ect..ect…
The debate went on for what seemed like forever and then we were interrupted by the television and the mention of Hillary Clintons name for the presidency.
My 13 year old looked at me and said…”Now if we had a woman president mom we would still be at war, it wouldn’t matter, its not just George W’s fault.” To which I calmly and truthfully stated, “No, I doubt that we would” She was curious now, and obviously confused, so I continued. “You see that’s the difference between men and women. A woman will talk a situation to death before she will beat you up to prove her point!”
My daughter giggled, she had to agree, that yeah women are better talkers than men.
I went on to explain to her that a while women are great talkers and debaters, if you mess with a woman’s children she will attack fiercely and quickly, she wouldn’t have taken months to talk about it first. We would have attacked the same day those towers fell, and she would have stayed focused on our mission of finding Al-Qaeda. She would have wanted great proof that those weapons existed before she would have put our military at further risk. She would not have been engaging us in wars of distraction.
A woman would have cared for her children here at home before sending thousands of jobs overseas, a woman would never treat her children differently even if they were gay, a woman would make sure other women were able to take their children to the doctor, a woman would lead her children away from harm, and not hesitate to talk to other world leaders about nuclear policies. A woman would not use threats of violence to get her way.
So I still have some what of a right winger in my mists, and I encourage her to have her own opinions, though I make more of an effort to ensure she has the facts.
And I am not saying Hillary Clinton is the best choice for President, I don’t know that yet, the campaigning has just begun…but I do know that I will be listening.

Saturday, January 06, 2007

Crossing the Line....

When does being a parent cross the line? I'll tell you. It crosses the line when a parent has the legal right to permanently mame and disfigure their own child in the name of LOVE!
Wonder what it is I am talking about.....well if you haven't had the news on lately or surfed the mass information on the world wide web then I invite you to visit this site....but beware and take will not only cause your blood to boil but will no doubt force a nausea to rise up that you have never known. and don't forget to read the 'comments' section...there you will find an entire group of like minded idiotic selfish bastards who have not only NEVER walked in the shoes of a parent of a disabled child but many of whom have never even had a child!
This family repeatedly makes contradictions in their lengthy statement and so called defense of what they call the 'Ashley Treatment'.
The family clearly states this was NOT a difficult decision! They did it easily! and apparently Selfishly! there is no part of what they have done to this helpless, vulnerable child that will make her life easier!
How is living without breasts going to make her life better? pedophiles certainly do NOT care if she has them or not. How is having her growth permanently stunted going to make her life easier for her? According to her family she doesn't use it anyway.
How can so many read this and NOT see the contradictions in these parents statements. for instance they claim she 'expresses delight' when they 'visit' her in her room . Firs who 'visit's their child in their own home?? Mine is always wherever we are. YES MY CHILD IS DISABLED!! second, they are claiming she expresses emotion then go on to claim she lacks the cognitive ability to recognize dignity?
They also claim that Ashley's ONLY caregivers are "Mom and Dad the only additional care givers entrusted to Ashley’s care are her two Grandmothers, " and "We would never turn the care of Ashley over to strangers.." well if that is the case then why are they concerned with sexual abuse, or pregnancy???
They also claim she has not shown any cognitive development past a 3month old...yet also state and I quote "Ashley is alert and aware of her environment.." and " She constantly moves her arms and kicks her legs. Sometimes she seems to be watching TV intently. She loves music and often gets in celebration mode of vocalizing, kicking, and choreographing/conducting with her hands when she really likes a song (Andrea Boccelli is her favorite –.."
The contradictions are enormous and ridiculous.
As many of you know I have and do walk the shoes of a parent of a child with a disability. I am a single parent, and my child is in a wheelchair, does not speak, gets her period every month, and weighs well over a 100 lbs. I would certainly NOT make her disabilities worse by carving her up and overdosing her on estrogen to prevent her from growing!
There are options this family did NOT consider and that is unfortunate. Ashley has the option of living a full life with her body still in tact...but these people who claim to love her the most took that from her..they claim it wasn't selfish..but it so plainly is. For they have failed to make a realistic statement in defense of this so called 'treatment'. The claim the doctors never pinpointed Ashely's diagnosis yet call this carving up of their child a treatment...a treatment of what exactly??
I cannot believe we live in a country that allows a parent to butcher their own child and then prevent their bodies from growing into healthy average adults. They did not TREAT theri daughters condition they merely satisfied a pathetic need to be in control!! I cannot begin to describe the pain I am feeling ..and no this post is NOT a gut reaction. I have read their page several times in the last few days....and my reaction remains the same....They did NOT act out of love, They acted out of selfishness and fear.
I ask each of you reading this to please contact your local, state and federal representatives, tell them how appalled you are, let them know this kind of inhumane treatment cannot and will not be tolerated in our country!! We are the United States of America...Here we are ALL created EQUAL!!!
yet another pot hole in this winding road we call life.....
t.r mugler